How do you go about getting your partner to travel with you when they have absolutely no desire to? It is not easy to get someone who doesn’t like to travel to accompany you on trips but it can be done with a few adjustments.
There are a lot of travel lovers around the world who are in relationships with people who just don’t understand or like travel. You are not alone. If you want to experience traveling as a couple, you will have to persuade your lover to come with you. Here are some ideas on how to go about it:
Putting Your Relationship First
Before you can persuade someone to do something, you must first disarm their defenses. If you are in a relationship and you travel solo a lot, you might come off as selfish and as someone who only cares about their own happiness and not the success of their relationship. We all know this is not true and that you care deeply about your significant other and the success of your relationship.
To remedy this situation, you want to build an environment in your relationship where your partner knows that your relationship is actually more important to you than your travel hobby. If they think that you value travel more you value the relationship, they will start to act defensive and all your chances of getting them to join you on your adventures will be ruined.
Putting Them at Ease
Everyone has insecurities. You may be surprised to learn that your partner has issues with you being on the road all the time with vibrant people who actually enjoy the hobbies you love.
To address the insecurities that may arise due to this scenario, you want to communicate more with your significant other during your travels. Don’t go off the radar for long periods of time. Simple things such texts and calls, especially video calls, can go along way into putting them at ease and making them comfortable with you being away from home for so long.
Piquing Their Interest in Travel
Travel is always fun. If you can effectively communicate how fun your adventures are or have been, you are half-way through convincing your partner to tag along the next time you hit the road.
You can tell them stories of your adventures, take amazing pictures to show to them, and bring back souvenirs that tell a story about your trip. With time, tales of your experiences will begin to grow on them and they will be the one begging you to bring them along.
Dismantling Their Excuses
People who don’t want to travel make up lots of excuses for why they stay away from the road. Most of the reasons they give are stupid. The excuses can range from not having enough money to travel–to being scared to travel since they never have before.
You can easily talk your significant other out of most of these excuses. Don’t be offensive when you do this. Employ some tact and come off as someone who understands their line of reasoning but who is willing to show them a new way of thinking. Since you share almost the same circumstances as them and you are able to travel, debunking their excuses won’t be hard at all.
Get Started the Simple Way
When they finally agree to come with you on a trip, take a small simple vacation first. You don’t want to complicate your first trip so give Murphy’s Law a chance to mess up your first travel experience with your partner.
A weekend getaway is a great first-time couple’s travel experience. You don’t have to go far from home. It’s likely there are great travel destinations for couples that are about an hour’s flight away from where you live.
Do the Heavy Lifting
You want to eliminate as many of the burdens of traveling for your partner as possible. Since you are the pro traveler, you should do most of the planning. Travel planning can be a boring and confusing affair. Don’t let your first-time-traveler partner handle most of it. The idea here is to eliminate as much friction as possible so that their first experience traveling with you is a good one.
Going for a Longer Vacation
For a longer vacation that lasts a week or so, you should take out a chilled out and relaxed vacation such as a beach vacation at a luxurious beach resort. You can never go wrong with a beach vacation.
You are in for a treat as most luxury beach resorts are built for couples. You can find a package deal that includes almost everything from accommodation to excursion tickets to tour guides. When you’re looking into resorts, make sure you choose one that isn’t family friendly–otherwise you will be surrounded by a bunch of families with children.
Don’t Force it
If your significant other doesn’t want to travel no matter what, don’t force them into it. Some people have no desire to see the world, and that’s OK.
It can be difficult considering you love to travel the world and you don’t share this interest with your partner. At the end of the day, it’s normal for you to be completely different people with different hobbies. If the traveling is putting too much of a strain on your relationship, you might want to rethink the situation you’re in.
